On my blog, I often share an image symbolizing the reverse evolution of women in marriage. It features a quote attributed to Cruella: “Marriage has damaged more women than famine and natural disasters.” While meant to portray her cruelty, the line resonates with many who fear or endure unhappy marriages.
I see both truth and exaggeration in this. Yes, many women suffer in marriage — but the issue isn’t marriage itself. It’s how criticism, comparison, and control are used against them.
1. Criticism
Constant criticism — about appearance, parenting, or choices — slowly erodes confidence. When blame replaces support, it silences a woman’s voice.
Instead: Use kind, constructive communication. Lead with “I” statements and balance concerns with appreciation.
2. Comparison
Being measured against other women, marriages, or past selves creates insecurity and emotional distance.
Instead: Recognize your partner’s unique strengths. Use admiration of others as shared inspiration, not ammunition.
3. Control
True love allows freedom. But control — through possessiveness or coercion — isolates and harms, leaving women feeling trapped and lost.
Instead: Trust and support each other’s growth. A healthy relationship nurtures autonomy, not fear.
Final Thoughts
These three subtle “C’s” can quietly break down a woman’s spirit. But it’s never too late to choose healing through empathy, honest dialogue, and shared effort.
